How to Overcome Singledom Birthday Stress

I am about to celebrate a birthday.  Which one, I won’t tell but I don’t feel any older, other than just another day where I have to remember to change the digit when people ask how old I am .  But enough about MY birthday!

Birthdays are like your own personal national holiday; the one day a year when you’ve gathered the most important people in your life and they celebrate in your honor, make you feel like royalty, and pretty much let you do whatever you want.   Or at the very least, give you a cake and if you are single they say “you know, you’re not getting any younger with indecision, another year”.  

So if you think that spending your birthday single is terrifying, here’s a few reasons exactly why you have to do it;

  1. You don’t have to stress about planning anything big.
  2. You’re free to do litterly anything you want.
  3. You don’t have to keep anyone waiting; take as little or as long as you like doing the things you enjoy.
  4. And lastly, being alone leaves you with no option other than to be brave; it will remind you of how naturally it is to be social (no social media) and talk to more people and you never know who you might meet that will turn your birthday from a single status to taken.    

Trust me , you will find that this isn’t difficult at all!  What would be difficult is if your birthday is on February 14th ( Valentine’s Day).  If you’re a woman, you’ve officially set yourself up for a lifetime of disappointment –now every guy you date will have to do something special, squared.  If you’re a guy, you now have to spend your birthday making somebody else feel special, because Hallmark said so.  

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Put Winter to Bed – Reset your Love Life!

While the stars are in your favor, the Spring Equinox is the perfect time to shake things up a little – rejuvenate stale relationships, get your love life together, and go on a new dating adventure.

So, make the most of the Spring Equinox with a few tips of inspiration for a new romantic pursuit ;

  • Make it happen!  If you haven’t been on a date in a while , set one up.   If you’ve been feeling discouraged with your dating life, your time off from the dating scene will allow you to jump back in with a new excitement and optimism.
  • Do a different kind of date night. Step outside the regular routine of dinner or bars, and try something totally different.
  • Tell your crush that you like them…. I know this can sometimes feel like the scariest thing in the world – instead of being scared of your fears remember the best-case scenario can happen, too.

In short, take full advantage of the Spring Equinox and remember to give yourself realistic timelines and goals and the time to enjoy it is now.

Bring. It. On!  

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The Pros and Cons of First Dates

Are they a good time for you?  If you think about it, the First First date was Adam and Eve.  They settled on apple picking as an activity, had a serpent as a chaperone and the rest is history. 

Today the all-important first date isn’t easy for most.  Between the pressure of who’s going to pay, how to keep the conversation going and how might it end,  there are so many moving pieces which for some can make it a less than appealing way to spend an evening.  And yet traditional dates are held up as a romantic ideal, and a must do if you want to meet someone.

Here are some ways our idea of a “date” has dramatically varied over the years;

Pre-19th century: Who needs dating when your matchmaking parents can set you up?

Early 1900s: A date involves a “gentleman caller” and is definitely chaperoned

1920s: Dating is about going out and playing the field.

1940s and 1950s: Dating is about procuring a husband ASAP.

1960s and 1970s: A date is really about sex.

1990s: Dating isn’t actually dating, it’s “hooking up.”

So, what does this mean for the picture-perfect first date today? Given how fast things change (it was only a few years ago swiping right wasn’t a term we even knew), trying to get a “first date” right isn’t worth getting stressed over.  

For our clients formal dates do still happen, but there’s a ton of in between that comes from us that by the time the “first date” happens you’ve already gotten to know so much about the other person that the initial first face-to-face is exceedingly casual or already has an air or familiarity.

Fact;   48% of all singles are using Facebook to do their own adept stalking before a date — WE actually have the first date by meeting them.

 Now, it’s all up to you.

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