6 Heartfelt Facts to Date a Single Mom

If you’re currently looking for love and not including Single Moms in your search, you need to read on. You’re not likely to stumble upon a more selfless or loving woman than one who has raised her kids on her own (or mostly on her own). But hey, don’t take it from us, take it from the gals themselves. Here’s a few quotes from what our single mom clients had to say, about their best reasons why you should date them!

  • She moves slowly into dating and relationships.

“I got a lot on my plate, and definitely not sitting around swiping left and right on Tinder. Nor do I have a desperation to rush into things, the most important persons are my kids” That means you may have to take things slow with any gal you date who has kids — but that’s a good thing.

  • It’s not all about her.

“My kids have a wonderful way of putting things into perspective.  If I am going to be the best mom I can be, it isn’t about me” Who wouldn’t appreciate a gal who has learned to be selfless to a fault?!!

  • She’s Responsible.

“I’m fully plugged into my kids’ lives, I accept the obligations and I don’t bad-mouth their dad” That gal will probably be the best woman you’ll ever meet!

  • She’s Sensitive.

“I’ve got little boys and have spent afternoons at the ball park- sure takes a lot of strength to be tough” If you’re the hand-holding type, you’re definitely in luck, she’s more comfortable with physical touch, who wouldn’t be ok with that!!!!.

  • She’s playing for keeps.

“The last thing I want to do is introduce someone to my kids, only to have that person disappear down the road”   She’s not looking to just hook up, and when you think about it, that’s about as good as dating ever gets!

  •  She is Versatile. 

“Being a single, working mum means I wear many hats. I am nimble. One minute I am the sexy business professional and the other, the girl next door with her kids at the sports park” 

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Indifference makes the difference with Dating & Wanting Kids

Whether you are interested or not, Royal Baby madness has gripped which brings up a good question for singles; are you indifferent to having kids?   A common answer from a lot of clients when I ask them if they want children is  “I’m not against kids, I am indifferent.  If my future partner wants kids then I would love to have them.”

For some, it can be a hard time understanding this as having kids is a life-changing event; or the ones stating it , they are just not sure.  Of course no one owes anyone an explanation, but when you are dating it can feel like a big deal.   There are all sorts of reasons why someone, when on a date, admits to being undecided/open as it creates confusion, but when I ask,  the common reason I see most is more the feeling of being rushed or the clock is ticking from someone and that their answer “can go either way” means more….. “NOT RIGHT NOW”.

There are motivations for this ranging from preferring their current lifestyles to prioritizing their careers, and for some it’s a pipe dream, tremendous investment, and that they are not meant to do the parenting thing on their own and want to make sure they have help from a wider village. 

As with all dating deal-breakers, there is no benefit before going further into the dating world with a major issue already in place.  And it can make all the difference when one rarely mentions it and the others position is inflexible.  Its better off  if you are looking for someone you can be with long term, for everyone,  if you’re up front. Kids are a deal-breaker because you can’t have half a kid!

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Dear Future, 60-something Co-Pilot !

“I’m not sure yet sure whether you exist, though I believe that you do and I am not too concerned with minor details about what you’ll look like, how tall you’ll be or what type of car you’ll drive.  However if you happen to be looking for someone who loves hiking, fishing, cooking at home with old friends and love spending time with each other at your place and vice versa; we might have a few things in common.  I love living a balanced healthy lifestyle, radiate a fun demeanor with romantic playfulness and optimism.  Travel is a big part of my life and I spend most of my time retired living and playing in Victoria, Vancouver Island and Costa Rica.  

Yes, Future Co-Pilot, you are an intelligent, independent, physically fit, affectionate, family orientated, inquisitive gentleman 60+ and I can hardly wait to meet you.”

If you are looking to meet a great woman to add to your already full life living in the Victoria, Nanaimo, Parksville, Qualicum Bay, Comox Valley regions and would like to learn more, don’t make her wait.  Drop me an email at [email protected] along with a recent photo (and I will send you hers) and we can begin the conversation.

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As seen in the Parksville/Qualicum Beach News – Thursday May 2, 2019

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Are we too old for Boyfriend’s in our 60’s ?


Years ago, most widows, after the death of their husband or a divorcée from a decades long marriage, didn’t remarry or even date again. Now, most want a new next chapter that includes life with a new romantic partner- which begs a common question to those now sharing life’s adventures, how do you introduce him to others?   

I have asked several of my re-partnered clients what they call the new man in their lives and was amazed at the dozens of terms they offered.  Not surprisingly most felt “boyfriend” sounded immature, “significant other” seemed too formal and “companion” more like an ideal dinner date.  So I’ve summarized their alternative suggestions along with a few others I found online.  Some are hilarious, a few are moot and others are downright descriptive;

  • Guy Friend, Bedfellow (is it a potential partner or simply a guy…. friend?)
  • Partner in Crime  (maybe good if you are outlaws on the run)
  • Soulmate (implies forever, which is a rather impossible length of time to grasp)
  • Best Buddy, Better Half (some may argue it’s better not to be best friends with your partner)
  • Undocumented husband, UPIARR -unmarried party in a romantic relationship, UPLIS -unmarried person living in sin (its more likely used to prevent deportation)

So what do I suggest you introduce the man you are sharing your life with ?  Just use his name simply saying  “I want you to meet James”.  Others will readily see that you’re together on more than a casual date.  You can also add, “We’re great partners”, if you think a bit more information would be helpful.

How do you feel about the word “boyfriend”? If you don’t use this term, how do you refer to your partner?  Please share your thoughts below!

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