The Friendship Approach to Dating

 

In the present dating society, hardly anyone has time to actually even meet someone, let alone find ways to make the process smooth for you and the people you date. It’s not a one-size-fits-all solution but it can provide a strong foundation for a lasting, meaningful relationship.

There are 3 levels of friendship, and if you get stuck at lower levels it’s going to be a problem, especially for your dating life.

  • The lowest level is friendship of transaction. There is nothing wrong with it — it’s just incomplete. If that’s all you have you will be hopelessly lonely.
  • Above that is friendships of beauty, that are based on admiration of another person. You just want to be around them, they’re magnetic, it could be because of their physical beauty, sense of humor, intelligence, or success, but if that beauty goes away, so does the friendship.
  • The friendship that actually brings satisfaction is called the friendship of virtue…. its cosmically beautifully useless……its one where you have the greatest amount of knowledge about each other, because you’re truly interested in each other, your truly known because you truly want to know, and visa versa, you are loving them for them, and they are loving you for you. It is the hardest, thus why it’s virtuous, and the ultimate secret to the happiest life.
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Dating Someone with Different Ideological Views?

Despite what you may think, dating someone with different ideological views (and having a healthy, fulfilling relationship) is completely possible given the divisive dating climate around it. In fact, SPIRITUAL or POLITICAL differences in a relationship aren’t necessarily deal-breakers, particularly if you and your SO are OK with it. Without differences in backgrounds and beliefs, very little growth can happen individually.

So, let’s talk about something I find troubling — lately people won’t even consider going out with somebody who disagrees. People are missing a lot of things and there’s a lot more to a person in addition to their views.  If one would realize there are many other dimensions to life, and that people are considered as whole, big, meaningful biographies worthy of a notice—then that’s a good frame of mind to live with—- look beyond your reflection in the mirror!

“Ideological beliefs shouldn’t be a big deal in choosing a life partner, nor should they dominate the relationship. I spend a lot of time dating people I disagree with and I’ve learned to talk to them and respect them” concludes Client Susan, “You find a way to do it, and I’ve been grateful to have a wider perspective.  It may not have changed my mind, but it’s changed my spirit.”

“I care more about how you treat me, then about how you vote” states Client Michael.

 

 

According to a Liberal Christian Matchmaker and her clients.

 

NOTE: If you’re in love or going out with a person who questions [multiple scenarios], but if that person is rude or hostile to people they meet, that’s a different thing and maybe you should think twice.

 

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