Your Dating Struggles are NOT Your Fault. Here’s Why.
As someone who spent the last 20 years listening to single people sharing some of their biggest dating struggles, I know better than anyone how much fun the “dating thing” can be. So many singles blame themselves and feel terrible when they don’t get the results they want. Plus, dating itself can be loaded up with self-loathing beliefs—this kind of negative mindset will only keep you stuck, yet another year, in a pattern of yo-yo dating.
That being said, the dating thing also comes with some drawbacks. For example, here are some actual recent dating struggles from our clients that you might be able to relate to;
- It can be too easy to find people flaws –“I’m getting into my 30’s, I don’t want to date anyone I don’t see a serious future with” . This makes it way too easy to pick holes in people, probably quite unfairly.
- It can be difficult to read signals— “I have no idea how read whether women are/aren’t interested, so I always just err on the side of caution and assume they aren’t.” Figure it out, apply it and just ask them.
- Being Single can be nice — “I’m comfortable being single. I got a good thig going right now”. Nice, but then you don’t put too much effort (or any at all) into dating and are often busy and rarely have the time to date.
- Overthinking can lead to Overreacting – “I overthink, which leads to overreacting, and this causes them to think I’m insane, so they loose interest” . Long story short, you need to CHILL.
If you want to create self-loving, healthy dating habits for 2022 – that are realistic to maintain- then I encourage you to contact us now ! [email protected]
