Entries by Jane Carstens

Do you Skip the Small Talk ?

                                                                      If you are turned on by intelligence, you’re a sapiosexual. If this describes you, and you are looking for a […]

The GOLDEN BACHELOR

    Dating at any age is awkward, scary and often a pain. True, being in the over-60 group may mean that more people your age are already off the market, however after 20 years as a matchmaker and myself in my mid- 60’s, the mature dating pool isn’t dismal, even if all the apps […]

Believe in True Love? I hope you do!

  Dating takes resilience.  And the more opportunities you give yourself, the better the chances you’ll find that person.  So maybe its not so surprising and even more encouraging that 90% of the singles I speak to who believe in true love say they know this because they have experienced it.  It’s the strongest emotion […]

Are you Interviewing or Dating?

Everyone who has used a dating app or website knows that you can get incredibly exhausted of scrolling through profiles and sending messages. And it takes even more time to investigate and VERIFY  that someone isn’t exaggerating or just flat out lying. If you are a discerning dater, why waste your time? On the other […]

Aren’t you supposed to learn to like my Quirks?

  Apparently not. Most of the singles I meet have had their fair share of down-and-out dating moments.  Dates that end with a follow up text detailing all of your first date faux pas, the list goes on (and on).  So , I have a lot of empathy for all you dating warriors, who keep […]

Dating; Our Best is All We Can Do

  I’ve been pondering the comments and conversations I’ve had from my last weeks blog about the changes in dating habits– so many equally different reactions. For me, I’ve been watching the full range of feedback of things that singles say and the ways they show up – or don’t, on a date for over […]

“She’s the right person, the trade offs are worth it!”

Just because you fall in love with someone doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a great partner all around. Sometimes one has a clear and realistic understanding of love.  One might not.  One might idealize love as the solution to all of their problems.  One might not. In today’s culture, many of us idealize love and see […]

The Difference a Matchmaker can Make!

    “We had a great drink date. She is everything you said she was.  I’m cautiously optimistic, but it was probably one of the best dates that I have ever had” Outsourcing your love life and dating with intention is becoming more and more mainstream especially as we enter into 2023 on the right […]

Santa-Dating Game

  It’s known to be the perfect stocking stuffer to gift this holiday season.  A bushy beard, twinkly eyes and a belly that shakes like a bowl of jelly, starring the hunkydory sleigh-rider. Not one but six Santa’s that are all very attracted to you. Which kind of Santa’s could you end up with? Well, […]