Entries by Jane Carstens

That Long Weekend Single Feeling

  There is just something about a long weekend that makes us all feel so much more relaxed than a regular weekend.  The weather can be awful, or you might not be feeling great, it doesn’t matter because you got that long weekend feeling. But if you are single it can feel like an emotional […]

Love Isn’t a Feeling, It’s A Choice

Most singles believe that LOVE is like a light switch where something flicks on, you get an overwhelming sensation, it hits you like a bag of bricks- or cupid’s arrow. It’s when you know that you’ve found the one, right? NOT SO MUCH! I’ve learned over the past 20 years working with singles that LOVE, […]

If you’re Skeptical, you’re Missing Out.

  You miss out 100% on the chances you don’t take. Wayne Gretzky appears to be the earliest attributed source of this particular expression.  It makes sense when you have a goal or a dream, but you don’t take a shot at it, you miss the opportunity to score, to win, or to get what you want. […]

Getting Matchy-Matchy

It’s a fact we tend to want to fit in with the person we are dating. Sure, we are all unique, but we want to, as a couple, look untied and as if we “fit”. You confirm to the environment that you’re in – so it’s only natural that when you’re dating someone, even automatically […]

Everyone Makes Mistakes in Dating

  How many of you can honestly say they haven’t made a few mistakes when they meet someone new?  Sometimes good people make bad choices.  It doesn’t mean they are bad….it means they are human. You learn from them and go on because a mistake is one thing. A pattern is another. There are loads […]

How to know if/when we are being too hard on ourselves.

I’ve seen it over and over in hundreds of smart, high-achieving singles I speak to and yet today, I still get the same question- “How do I know if or when I’m being too hard on myself when it comes to dating?”. In working with singles over the last 20 years,  we find most are […]

Single Dad’s ; Spring Break Alert

While Covid has been a good excuse for not meeting up with just anyone, and he’s burnt out from dating apps , yet he’s never down in the dumps because he doesn’t have a partner. He would just love to meet someone who’s active and outdoorsy, and actually interested in him. He is an amazing […]

Yes, it’s “Spring Break (up)” Season, Baby.

There’s really no great time to do it, unfortunately, one of those break up periods is upon us.  Statistics put together from Facebook data, show 2 big spikes.  One right after Valentine’s Day, but the sharpest increase by far happen in the weeks that lead up to spring break (which officially starts this week). While […]

Be Aware of Fantasy Relationships

Like all people, we are deserving of love and connection. Here are a couple things to keep in mind for anyone wanting to avoid  the so-called, real life  “Tinder Swindler” while navigating the world in today’s dating. Experiences have taught me that practiced too early on (before trust and a foundation have been established), excessive […]

How NOT to Burn Out, DATING

  Born and raised a Toronto girl with nothing more than passion, a computer, a love for the West Coast, and for the last 20 years I have remained insatiably curious about human connections.   What makes singles genuinely happy, successful, and fulfilled while searching for the one? It is possible to dream big without […]