Entries by Jane Carstens

Your Dating Struggles are NOT Your Fault. Here’s Why.

As someone who spent the last 20 years listening to single people sharing some of their biggest dating struggles,  I know better than anyone how much fun the “dating thing” can be.   So many singles blame themselves and feel terrible when they don’t get the results they want.  Plus, dating itself can be loaded up […]

Dating Apps Dictate “the more the merrier” !

With the new variants and current global climate, we’re in a new stage and phase of dating and there is nothing wrong with you if that’s where your mind is going or if love is what you’re seeking.  We are all trying to get by. Dating experts and matchmakers- myself included- would advise that it […]

It’s Time! 3 Reasons to Date in 2022

  Dating has always allowed you to hit pause and take a break.  But after living thru the last few years of a pandemic which has challenged dating, many of us realize now it’s about so much more.  Matchmakers like me, who work with singles who say they would seriously date someone, are setting the tone.  Dating […]

4 Things You Need to Remember Before a First Date

As a matchmaker, I can’t guarantee love, but I can help you get a first date.  Over the last 20 years I’ve set up a lot of first dates, so I get it, and I’ve been there for my clients when they get nervous. Its super relatable and it shows that you care about yourself, […]

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Do you have plans for New Year’s?

  So here we are the beginning of November. Over the last 20 years that I have been matchmaking,  I don’t know of another four weeks when singles lurch forward into new states of mind quite so dramatically and we are busy. Hoping to see physical manifestations of our hearts desires feels more urgent on […]

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I Want You to Meet Someone

It’s an everyday occurrence that we come across a great Single that’s too good not to share! You might be thinking…. dating ?!?!?  Yet you have likely recognized in your clearest moments that there is a greater possibility for finding love, despite your best efforts. And, like so many of the singles I speak to […]

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Why Dating has always been (very) Political

  Forget masks, social distancing, or being vaccinated the real issue stopping you meeting the love of your life might just be your politics. Reporting from the dating frontline, we can attest the politicization of dating is real , especially during an election.  And, according to the clients we work with 50% believe its important […]

Want to break out of the “HINGE” game?

Whether you’ve been online dating for what feels like forever or are totally new to the search for love, or a date online, there’s no denying “swipe apps” start to feel like a game. I personally hear from my clients everyday that they don’t like it and its more frustrating than not. Want to break […]

Help for Empty Nesting and Dating

I have seen over this last month with the singles I speak to, it can be quite difficult as a parent to adjust to a new home and family dynamic after the kids have moved out or on to university living. They have shared feelings of loneliness and restlessness and it’s important to realize that […]

How is Dating Going for You ?

Stop worrying.  Stop panicking.  Nothing good can come out of the expecting the worst. The way you are feeling, lost and alone, its normal. All singles go thru it. Thank yourself for how far you have come- it hasn’t been easy. If you’re not having the best experience and are open to creative possibilities and […]