Few online trends delight me as much as today as my love for tweets, DM’ or texts that encourage people to disclose their secret crushes. They are shameless and we love them.

They are straight to the point, and they never fail to amuse.  They are at their surface a blunt, genuine invitation for potential romantic interests to reveal themselves.  It is also a lightly veiled way to broadcast your relationship status and admit your desire to find love leading up to a birthday or romance-centered occasion, like today, Valentine’s Day.

So, go ahead, admit it.

Start with the words “If you have a crush on me” and end with some version of “tell me now”.

You’ve got nothing to lose!

 

 

 

 

 

Here is a favorite of  the Matchmaker for Hire team — to be enjoyed whether you’re celebrating Valentine’s Day with a partner, family, or simply dedicating the holiday to yourself.

 

Mark Twain & Olivia Langdon: 36 Years of Love, Laughter, and Devotion

When Mark Twain married Olivia Langdon, he told a friend:

“If I had known how happy married life could be, I would have wed 30 years ago instead of wasting time growing teeth.”

He was 32.

Twain—born Samuel Clemens—grew up in a modest family, working from a young age. He started as a printer’s apprentice, became a riverboat pilot, tried his luck at silver mining (and failed spectacularly), before finally finding his true calling as a writer. His sharp wit and storytelling brilliance made him famous across America.

It was around this time that he fell in love—not with Olivia at first, but with her portrait. A friend showed Twain a locket with her image and later invited him to meet her in person. Within two weeks, Twain proposed.

Olivia liked him, but she was hesitant. He was ten years older, rough around the edges, lacked the refinement of her wealthy, cultured circle, and had not a penny to his name. She admired his talent but turned him down.

Twain, ever persistent, proposed again. Another refusal—this time, she cited his lack of religious devotion. He responded with his signature humor and sincerity: “If that’s what it takes, I’ll become a good Christian.”

Despite her refusals, Olivia was already in love with him. But Twain, convinced he had no chance, left.

On his way to the train station, his carriage overturned. Seizing the moment, Twain played up his injuries and was brought back to Olivia’s home. As she cared for him, he made one final proposal.

This time, she said yes.

A Marriage of Devotion

Twain made every effort to please his deeply religious wife. He read the Bible to her every evening and said grace before meals. Knowing she disapproved of some of his stories, he never submitted them for publication, accumulating over 15,000 unpublished pages. Olivia became his first editor and toughest critic—so much so that when she came across the phrase “Damn it!” in Huckleberry Finn, she made him remove it.

Their daughter, Susy, once summed them up perfectly:

“Mama loves morality. Papa loves cats.”

Twain adored Olivia. He once wrote, “If she told me wearing socks was immoral, I would stop wearing them immediately.” She called him her “gray-haired boy” and watched over him like a child. He, in turn, credited her with preserving his energy, optimism, and youthful spirit.

Olivia, for her part, loved his humor. One day, Twain was laughing so loudly that she asked what book had amused him so much. Still chuckling, he handed it to her. She glanced at the cover—it was one of his own books.

Love Through Hardship

Their life together was not without heartbreak. They lost children. Twain went bankrupt. But while his indomitable optimism kept him afloat, Olivia’s unshakable faith gave her strength. They never turned against each other—Twain never once raised his voice at Olivia, and she never once scolded him.

Twain was fiercely protective of her. When a close friend made a joke at Olivia’s expense, Twain nearly ended their friendship over it. And when Twain set off on a round-the-world tour at sixty, Olivia—knowing he needed constant care—left everything behind to accompany him.

For one of her birthdays, Twain wrote: “Each day we spend together only strengthens my certainty that we will never regret intertwining our lives. With each passing year, I love you even more, my darling. Let us look forward—toward future anniversaries, toward growing old—without fear or sorrow.”

It was a love built on laughter, devotion, and deep understanding—a bond that remained unshaken until the very end.

 

I must admit most singles I speak to are happy to say goodbye to a year of chaotic dating and welcome in a new more exciting one. Most say, in 2025 they will use the dating apps less and try to find their own meet-cute moments foraging brand new connections that will be emotionally deeper than what a handful of first dates will get you online.

But before you step into 2025, now is the best time to reflect on your dating wins & flaws, over the last year that you can work on while preparing for the year ahead.    What you might need to do differently to succeed, or do you need to make dating and your relationship a greater priority in 2025?

Take a few minutes to think about these few points to become a better dater.  It’s a small investment of time to set yourself up to make 2025 the best year yet to find your chosen one.

  • Remind me that I should treat everyone I date with respect and do everything out of love.
  • Show me how to control my emotions so that I don’t trauma dump on others.
  • Remind me to practice what I preach and surround myself with people that align with me that strive for betterment in their dating lives.

This can be very personal for some but don’t worry, none of us are perfect.  You can endeavour to spread some light and positivity into the world of dating and make 2025 your best year yet!

 

If you need some help to uncover and eliminate what’s holding you back, reach out to me, I can help [email protected]

 

In your dating life, are you sometimes up, and sometimes down?   You have good feelings, then bad feelings.  You have successful dates, then you have failed dates – and then you begin to ask the question “is it me?”

It’s not just you.  Coming back to the dating market is different than it was when you were in it before. And failed dates aren’t necessarily an indication that we need to change something. They are a great way to learn in this ever-changing dating world of emotions, about what we need in a partner and what we don’t.

 So, you say, okay, great, I guess I understand that distinction, but how practically do I get there?

The point is, well, that’s just the way the wheel goes in the course of our dating lives. Instead of living your dating life just out there in the world, subject to all of its vagaries and changes, try to live in the center of it. And then you can watch the wheel go round and round with a sense of detachment but in a deeper place.

This De-cember, De-clutter, De-tach and De-lete anything that De-values your Dating Life !

 

Here’s my number 778-552-3350

[email protected] 

 

When you first start dating someone, it can be exciting to discover that you have a lot in common.

CS LEWIS says Friendships start with the explicit or implicit statement, “you too?”

You love this painting too, you like this music too, you had the same experience with your parents too.  You see relationships start when there’s two people looking at the same thing and they have it in common…… “you too”. And that’s the beginning of a particular kind of relationship intimacy it brings.

However, it is important to be open-minded and accept differences that aren’t deal-breakers.  Being able to appreciate and respect each other’s unique interests, perspectives and backgrounds can take things to the next level.

 

 

 

 

In the present dating society, hardly anyone has time to actually even meet someone, let alone find ways to make the process smooth for you and the people you date. It’s not a one-size-fits-all solution but it can provide a strong foundation for a lasting, meaningful relationship.

There are 3 levels of friendship, and if you get stuck at lower levels it’s going to be a problem, especially for your dating life.

  • The lowest level is friendship of transaction. There is nothing wrong with it — it’s just incomplete. If that’s all you have you will be hopelessly lonely.
  • Above that is friendships of beauty, that are based on admiration of another person. You just want to be around them, they’re magnetic, it could be because of their physical beauty, sense of humor, intelligence, or success, but if that beauty goes away, so does the friendship.
  • The friendship that actually brings satisfaction is called the friendship of virtue…. its cosmically beautifully useless……its one where you have the greatest amount of knowledge about each other, because you’re truly interested in each other, your truly known because you truly want to know, and visa versa, you are loving them for them, and they are loving you for you. It is the hardest, thus why it’s virtuous, and the ultimate secret to the happiest life.

Despite what you may think, dating someone with different ideological views (and having a healthy, fulfilling relationship) is completely possible given the divisive dating climate around it. In fact, SPIRITUAL or POLITICAL differences in a relationship aren’t necessarily deal-breakers, particularly if you and your SO are OK with it. Without differences in backgrounds and beliefs, very little growth can happen individually.

So, let’s talk about something I find troubling — lately people won’t even consider going out with somebody who disagrees. People are missing a lot of things and there’s a lot more to a person in addition to their views.  If one would realize there are many other dimensions to life, and that people are considered as whole, big, meaningful biographies worthy of a notice—then that’s a good frame of mind to live with—- look beyond your reflection in the mirror!

“Ideological beliefs shouldn’t be a big deal in choosing a life partner, nor should they dominate the relationship. I spend a lot of time dating people I disagree with and I’ve learned to talk to them and respect them” concludes Client Susan, “You find a way to do it, and I’ve been grateful to have a wider perspective.  It may not have changed my mind, but it’s changed my spirit.”

“I care more about how you treat me, then about how you vote” states Client Michael.

 

 

According to a Liberal Christian Matchmaker and her clients.

 

NOTE: If you’re in love or going out with a person who questions [multiple scenarios], but if that person is rude or hostile to people they meet, that’s a different thing and maybe you should think twice.

 

We’re excited to introduce our Vancouver client. An extroverted and friendly Entrepreneur, Investor, family man, 5’11”, in his late 70’s and he is putting himself out there with hopes of finding love.  Grounded by his Pacific Northwest roots, he’s a humble kindhearted gentleman with an incredible laugh. He works out, enjoys motorized boating, great food, lively conversation, dancing, and travels comfortably anywhere.

A great match for him is a woman between 65-75 years old, who is youthful, stylish, attractive, intelligent, outgoing, fit, flexible, able to travel, residing in Vancouver.

Interested in meeting him? Contact me  [email protected] .

Looking forward to hearing from you!

I have noticed that for most of the singles I speak to, including me, surrendering is often the hardest thing to do.  And to be realistic, it’s hard to entirely step away from hustle-culture when you are in a life you are passionate about and a romantic relationship you want to progress in.

Well, that hustle-culture has finally hit dating.  And when things are not going the way, we wanted them to, then we give up.  We think that something is wrong with us or the person we’re meant for or the love we are desiring to find, doesn’t exist.

If this is you, imagine this VALENTINE’S DAY to consider your journey to attracting romantic love. It’s like driving, you’re on a journey and when you meet your love you’ll be excited and know that there will be detours along the way (unfavorable dates, no one calling you back, not asking you out on a second or third date, emotionally unavailable singles, etc.) and that you may have to do things differently than you had preferred, and it may take you longer to get to him/her than you expected but eventually you’ll meet and you’ll be so happy that you didn’t give up.

So, decide that from now on if your dating life is unfolding in a certain way and the only reason you are resisting is because of a personal preference, why not let go of that preference and let life be in charge.

I’m confident it’s the most powerful thing that you can do.

 

Most singles often don’t know how to express what’s going on for them when dating is not working. It might be they simply don’t understand why its not working or know how to explain it. Its like you could literally run a mile away from it, and its making single people not want to go on ANY dates.

The dating scene has completely evolved over the last decade where I have played cupid. One factor that makes dating harder is finding someone looking for the same type of relationship. Over 50% of the singles I speak to lately, indicate that this factor is a problem.  People define relationships differently, and they have different approaches to beginning one.  Trying to date someone who does not indicate wanting to take the relationship the next level can be frustrating. That is why it’s important to simply ask where someone is at and be honest with your hopes.

What if one could simply and politely say: “Hey I enjoyed spending time with you and would like to keep getting to know you” and give them an out if they’re not feeling the same way (e.g. “and yet, if you’re not interested, zero hard feelings.  I’d just like to know where you’re at”)

Who here agrees? Thoughts…