I know for a fact that one of the most incredibly important parts in our mate selection process is the first kiss.  The first kiss—well it can only happen once and it is the set up for the relationship that will follow.

As I write this, I hesitated because I realized that over 60 % of my clients coming out of long term relationships, haven’t had a first kiss in many years.  Many have stated they couldn’t remember what it felt like or how it made them feel because their memory was from so long ago.

So Pucker up!  Being single again has its rewards—the anticipation of looking forward to your next first kiss and the excitement that comes with it.

Read on for all the juicy (but not slobbery) scientific details……. http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/mind-and-body/your-brain-first-kiss

It’s hard to see what’s right in front of you —literally.

I say this because I feel that this seems to happen quite frequently in the lives of the singles that I meet.  Things especially in dating, that are obvious and right in front of us tend to get overlooked, taken for granted or assumed otherwise.

So how can we all be better “participants” in the crazy world of dating?  Instead of merely pointing out the problems with someone maybe we can be more invested and look at the positives.  When combined with some experienced dating support (like your Matchmaker), re-noticing the exercise and examining its outcome can go a long way towards getting more 2nd dates.  For me, this is a standard for all our clients that can only lead to success in finding that what you want —can be right in front of you, sometimes even a few blocks away!

Things change continuously around us, and its easy to see something new everyday if you just open your eyes to it and your ideal match often hides just beyond what is immediately visible.

Can you see it?

I hear it everyday, where are all the singles?  Well listen up YVR, Vancouver Singles do exist—but they’re just hard to find.

If you have decided to leave it to luck alone — I decided to turn to the science of it and research some Stats Canada data to find the highest concentrations of single women in Metro Vancouver.

In the few blocks along Granville south of Broadway, seven out of ten women are single – more than double the regional average.  Surprising?  Well that’s also true for much of Kits, especially the area between Maple and Vine Streets, and between Venables and First on Commercial Drive. But take a drive out to rural Langley, and east of WR in Surry, the odds of finding a single woman much lower.  There, less that two out of ten women are single.

Our take: Sometimes a guy needs a little help!

I can make you feel closer to winning the dating game than ever before!

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Over the last 16 years, setting up thousands of dates for my clients in Victoria most say they are looking to find a nook and steal a potential kiss!

I felt I should do some up to date research on making it a memorable one……thought I’d share a few findings:

Fan Tan Alley – Find a nook in NA narrowest commercial street to steal a kiss.  For a little extra luck pass thru Gate of Harmonious Interest and the red streetscape in Chinatown.

Mount Douglas Park – You can drive or hike to the top and share a view of Victoria – go at sunset and watch the snow-capped Olympic Mountains turn pink—this summer especially! Are you melting yet?

Sipping Martinis at Vista18 – unforgettable views, cityscape and the Inner Harbour, ocean, mountains!

Westsong Way – From the west side of the harbour, you’ll get the vest views of the Victoria skyline including the Empress Hotel and Parliament Buildings.

Dallas Road – Walk along the waterfront from Ogden Point to Clover Point, plenty of places off the pathway to hide a picnic basket lunch for two, take in the scenery and take the stairs along the walk that lead to quiet pocket beaches.

Willows Beach – pack a picnic and blanket; watch the moon rise over the ocean on the strip of sand in Oak Bay is totally a smooth move!  Let’s just say you won’t need hot chocolate!

Where’s your place you like to set off some sparks?

 

 

Are you looking for love in Victoria/Vancouver Island?

Contact Me [email protected] .  I’m on the island meeting singles every week.

 

Well, yah, sorta!

I help my clients get closer to happiness in this crazy world of dating.  You can go from feeling like you’re the only single person out there to actually out there on really great dates. No drugs required!

Anybody can get happier.  The first step is to decide you want to.  Sound silly, but wouldn’t we all want to feel happier?  I meet singles everyday who have been stuck in the rut of the dating scene, who have stayed in their comfort zone even if its not what they wanted.  Some have wished for some kind of magic solution and left it in the hands of the universe.  In theory, that’s why singles give online dating a try; they are wanting to have entertainment and instant gratification behind a screen.

If credible matches with singles serious about meeting someone resonates with you, with no harmful side effects and there is no way to overdose, then I am indeed your happiness dealer!

If you need help brokering out your happiness drugs, I’m available If you want to talk for five minutes to see if Matchmaking is right for you, write [email protected]  to schedule a complimentary chat.

My thought of the day; Choose your words wisely, keyboard courage can be dangerous.

We all get negative/positive feedback especially when it comes to dating and how the new norm is to communicate on social media and/or texting for that matter.  Too many people develop “Keyboard Courage” and type the craziest things and hit send and think that’s ok —it’s not!

Don’t think for a minute that potential suitors aren’t doing extensive social media checks to see what type of person you are.  They read threads, view pictures, read your words and check with their network of friends, in under an hour.  And based on what they find, they use that info to decide whether they want to meet you.  Of course, even the best of elevator pitches I can do for my clients won’t influence their opinion of you if you look like or have a reputation of being a headache waiting to happen.

 

My warning; keyboard courage especially in dating can go the wrong direction, very quickly, and remember that there are real people behind that avatar or profile.

 

If there is issue, take a step back from it all and always try to be aware of paths crossing again in the future!

We are currently in the middle of a heatwave and ready to enjoy not only the 150th Anniversary of Canada Day, another perfect long weekend of summer!  Since I just returned from a couple weeks of visiting family in Toronto and spent my week back nursing a nasty bug I picked up, I instead dedicated today to think about the rest of my summer and how I can make this a Summer of Love for my clients!

The Summer of Love refers to the summer of 1967, when an unprecedented gathering of as many as 100,000 young people converged on the Haight-Ashbury neighborhood of San Francisco.  Today half a century later, the most basic values and cultural assumptions of that moment and that movement still apply. From the words of Lennon;

There’s nowhere you can be that isn’t where
You’re meant to be,
It’s easy.
All you need is love.

Is this your summer to find LOVE?

I’ll be waiting with flowers in my hair!

 

Call me a Romantic at Heart, but working with my clients has been amazing!  I don’t know if it’s the fact that so many more people are reaching out to find love (54% of the population is Single) or what it is, but I’m such a sucker for love and I believe in it and always want to win at finding love for all my clients.

By nature, I think as a woman we are nurturers, we’re caretakers, and me in particular……I want to take care of everybody I can.  Tie it with a pulse on the dating scene; imperative traits to have as a Matchmaker!

Over half of people in B.C. love their dog more than their partner and all of them say they would consider NOT dating someone they suspected their dog didn’t like. Sound familiar?

Here are a few considerations to determine if your “dog person” considers their pooch more than a pet:

  1. They admit to shedding a tear when they must leave their dog at home at night
  2. They share more pictures of their dog on social media than of their family
  3. They brought their pet on a date (I know a lot guilty of that one)
  4. They make up songs to sing to their pet like they’re auditioning for American Idol!

No matter how you look at it, dogs are extremely common in BC and one third of the population has a least one dog. I must say……. I am guilty as charged!!!!

Ever feel like you love your dog more than your date? Gone to great lengths to keep your pet happy? Send us a message with your experience!

Good Question!……..who can’t!

He’s the Go-to-Guy and the Mr. Fix-it Man, and good to find!

Dating Tip:  A nice guys goal is to make other’s happy!  Especially his girl!