After numerous health problems and maybe a few divorces behind you, it would be fair to say you have experienced, good or bad, quite an interesting life. Here is some insightful information taken from introducing thousands of 60 something singles on gracefully starting over in the dating scene for the next third of their life.

Relationship or Fling?– Most 60 and older singles are looking for a relationship filled with fun, companionship and intimacy (ahem …sex).  Not to say marriage is goal, but if the relationship is wonderful – marriage follows.

What are most looking for?– This needs to be divided into 2 categories, what women want and what men want. Women more than often have their own economic and social standing. They are now able to select the man that they want rather than having to choose a man for financial support or social status. Men want a companion with whom to enjoy their golden years. Some want friendship-not sex. Some want sex, and lots of it.

Are all the good ones taken?– While most sixty-something’s tend to opt for modest outfits, today we find most refuse to let their 60 something years define their dress code and lifestyles. Your appearance can make the statement that you respect yourself. Those who can and will are the undiscovered gems. They’re the good ones-not yet taken. Stats say that 54% of the population is single and over 70% of people over 60 and are single date regularly, so that means every day a new crop of potential “good ones” comes on the market…..it’s never been a better time!

If you are re-entering the dating game, the old tried and true method of introductions by friends and family still works, although hiring a Matchmaker can’t hurt!! It’s safe because someone you know and trust, knows and trusts him/her. We call this the credible introduction. I urge all “mature” singles to just get out there or contact me , it’s not as hard as you think!

Jane Carstens   Contact Us

I am so excited to support the beautiful loving initiative of  my new friend, Wendy Williams Watt …YOU ARE LOVED NOTES

I left today armed with my homework and blank pieces of paper and I am passing it forward to my “loving Matchmaker tribe” to handwrite YOU ARE LOVED- on every one of them, for her to give out at the end of July to 50 Thousand open hearts during PRIDE in Vancouver BC.

For those of you who wish to write notes with us this week, please drop by our office, and know that Wendy plans to hand deliver them to as many hearts and palms as possible. We know this first hand—there is always someone waiting to hear they are loved! Big Love Ball Wendy Williams-Watt

Need inspiration-watch this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R45HcYA8uRA

Are you haunted by regrets about a relationship from your past that didn’t work out “I should have tried harder” or regret not taking a chance to see what could have been “the one that got away”.

The real truth is that most have had at least a few romantic regrets-and they definitely do matter.

According to a recent study from Northwestern University, while women were more likely than men to have regrets about romantic relationships, men had their fair share as well. About 44 percent of the regrets described by women were about relationship mistakes, compared to 19 percent for men. Despite that obvious gender difference in the study’s results, men who cared deeply for the women they lost are just as regretful, if not more so, than women.

Tip: Use your regrets as motivation to do things differently the next time you’re with someone or thinking of meeting someone new.   You’re so ahead of the game if you can learn from the past and not make the same mistake twice.

Bottom line: A healthy amount of regret is a good thing, because it can motivate you to get things right when the chance presents itself with someone new. In the end, we all make romantic mistakes — but it’s how you get up and rebound from them that matters most. Instead of letting regret dominate your thoughts, give yourself credit for what you’ve done right and focus on not repeating those patterns from past relationships that didn’t work out in the future.