Check out the interview with Dan Kahn – reporter for Shaw Cable TV-Victoria, airing this week February 9 thru 16th, where I talk about getting your dating groove back!
Here is the link to match maker: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NW9myGn22Lg
I had the good fortune to be asked by Steve Darling to appear on his morning show to talk about the Vancouver Dating Scene, and where do people go to meet other singles?
Watch for the video footage in the next few days……….in the meantime here is a picture of Steve and I after the interview.
You’ve got a new look; you feel great, all dressed up but no place to go?
Come out to Paris Cliniqe Boutique and have some wine, appys and meet me, Jane Carstens Vancouver’s favorite Matchmaker.
I have a roster of eligible men who are working with me to find their soul mates.
No quality single guys in Vancouver? That’s news to Me!.
With over a decade of matchmaking success, my company Matchmaker For Hire specializes in finding the right partner in the 40 and over demographic. I will be at Paris Cliniqe to let you know what’s what in the Vancouver dating scene and who I’ve got for you.
You never know, this may be a Valentines Day to remember!
I will be at Paris Cliniqe between 6:30 and 9pm on Friday February 10th
www.mypariscliniqe.com
Last week I attended a shower for Wendy and Bill, a couple I matched together September 2010, and the big DAY is less than weeks away at a family ceremony in Mexico!!!!
Kim P (pictured right), referred Wendy (62, pictured center) a friend of hers to me to help her in her quest to finding her soul mate. Wendy even went on Shaw TV with me in an interview at the beginning of her soul mate journey that you can watch, and is posted on my site on my media page. Bill, the second gent I sent her on a date with, didn’t start out as that instant match. They had a great time on their first date, and she said she hadn’t felt so good in ages, but she wasnt sure…..I said, Why don’t you just try seeing him again? The next Halloween — nearly a year from their first meeting — he trick-or-treated at her door dressed up in costume, dropped to his knees, with a ring in his hand.
I can still remember her calling to tell me the news. She was crying and said, ‘If you hadn’t encouraged me to see him again, I might not have. Now I’m getting married!’”
Many Thanks to Kim, and Congratulations to the Happy Couple, Bill and Wendy!!!!!!! Happy Retirement too!!!!!!
We are sad to announce the passing of Helénè Falardeau, a beloved dear friend and colleague of Jill and myself for some years. She is now at peace from her 5+ year courageous battle with cancer. Helene’s life was a great source of pride and inspiration thru her art, her attention to detail and her creative talents. We will remember the fun we had at the office matching and writing bios as a team. Although she was the size of a minute, she had the heart and strength of a lion. She always ceased to amaze us and was a source of inspiration and knowing when it came to the spiritual realm. Never afraid of what was waiting for her at the end she was happy and content at returning to where she belonged (home). We will miss her deeply.
Due to popular demand, we have finalized details around a return of our Singles Event in Victoria. I have once again partnered with Kim Pullen, Proprietor of Church & State Wines. This is a unique opportunity to meet, mix and mingle with other singles, make friends, and have fun with the possibility of meeting that special someone.
Taste the award winning wines of Church & State, paired with food prepared by the head chef at Church & State, meet the relationship pros, participate in a fine art silent auction, have a chance to win some fabulous door prizes, and much much more…… all taking place among an elegant cocktail party atmosphere.
Here is the promo ad that will run next weekend to launch the tickets which are very limited to singles 45+ (our last event sold out in 7 days)……watch for more details and the invite over the next week, or better yet call now to reserve your ticket.
Here’s an article that I wrote and was published in the Vancouver Sun and the Victoria Times Colonist:
You’re single, profiled on multiple Internet dating sites and still you’re facing the prospect of another month without a successful date or relationship. You can always hire a professional matchmaker like me to find you your soul-mate, but with a little work and a little knowledge there’s no reason you can’t be your own matchmaker. As a professional matchmaker I’ve learned a lot about finding, interviewing and matching the right people for long and satisfying relationships. The biggest secret to finding the right mate is the ability to be proactive.
There are basically three steps in finding a successful relationship proactively, you:
* Create a soul-mate wish list
* Get the message out to the world.
* Pick from the respondents and start dating
The first and most important step in the process is to decide what you want in a potential mate. This may seem obvious but most people have only a vague idea, if at all, of what it is they want in a mate. Take some time and write it down, then list which qualities are negotiable and which are not. One way to kick-start this process is to begin by making a list of all of your past relationships. Write down the role you played in each relationship, what your responsibilities were, how the relationship ended, and lessons learned. With this information, a picture will emerge of who you are and what you’re looking for in a potential mate; this list of qualities will be your Soul Mate Wish List.
When building your Soul Mate Wish List, make sure that the criteria you choose for your potential mate are reasonable:
* Unreasonable expectations include: non negotiable requirements of physical
appearance; you refuse to date someone unless they have a certain amount of
money; the insistence that your potential mate share all of your interests or
that they live a short distance away.
* Reasonable expectations include: some sort of spark between the two of you,
you want someone who finds you amusing and exciting, you want someone that
shares both your basic view of the world and a willingness to be in a long term
relationship.
Now that you have your Soul Mate Wish List, you need to get it out in the world. You do this by utilizing your existing network of family friends and co-workers. Write a short note telling your personal network (friends, family, workmates,etc.) what you intend to do, i.e. “I’m single and I’m actively searching out a new relationship” and include your Soul Mate Wish List, then email everyone in your address book, post your soul-mate wish list on Facebook, or Twitter.
Ask your network to read your Soul Mate Wish List carefully and ask them to get back to you if they know anyone that fits your wish-list and then ask them to forward your email to their network of family and friends and so on.
Another way of getting your message out to the world is to place and ad in the local paper. Costs can range anywhere from fifty dollars for an ad in the personal section, to a thousand dollars or more for a stand alone ad in the front section of a newspaper. A thousand dollar ad shows that you mean business, and who knows the papers or radio and TV may pick up the story. The secret to writing a compelling ad copy is honesty. State your intention in the first line of the ad, go on to describe yourself, describe what you are looking for in a mate, and end it with a call for action statement. Check out the Private Partner Search <https://matchmakerforhire.comservices/private-search-services/> section of my website for examples.
You’ve written a Soul Mate Wish List, told the world of your intentions; the replies start to come in, now it’s time to pick who you’ll go on a date with.
- One of the big lessons I’ve have learned over the years is to never make a decision on a picture of a potential match.
I have numerous examples in my work of couples that would never have met the people they are married to today if they had followed their first instincts and not met because they saw each other’s pictures. The truth is 99 percent of us take a less than flattering picture. - Don’t discount a potential partner because of their phone manner; I always insist that the people I match meet each other, even if their initial contact on the telephone did not go well.
- Don’t start an online email or chat type relationship. It can be a huge waste of time. You tend to project your needs much more in an online relationship and when you finally meet your dream forever partner you find that without the mystery of the online component there is absolutely no spark, no chemistry and a huge emotional investment just went down the drain.
- Do meet the with your potential soul mates after a quick phone call, after all the only way you can gage the chemistry factor is face to face.
Now for the fun part, get out there and start dating. There is no secret in finding the right partner (I do it every day); persistence, and the ability to be proactive are all you’ll need to narrow the search, fulfill your Soul Mate Wish List and meet that someone special.