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Do you have plans for New Year’s?

 

So here we are the beginning of November. Over the last 20 years that I have been matchmaking,  I don’t know of another four weeks when singles lurch forward into new states of mind quite so dramatically and we are busy.

Hoping to see physical manifestations of our hearts desires feels more urgent on these longer November evenings, and before we shift inevitably into the next year, and if your single you get feelings to find somebody to love.  Consider where we were last year at this time.  Vaccine trials, hospitals overwhelmed, borders still closed, November has always been a month of high emotion, whether it’s longing, loss, or memories of closeness.

But come on. Everyone, at one point in their lives needs encouragement along the way and you are no different; without fail our clients hold on to that believing. They let US focus on it and they are enthusiastic to accept meeting potential local love possibilities.

Though patience is a virtue, there is a limit to everyone’s patience. Where are you ?

Happy New Year…this is the year of ….?

 

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I Want You to Meet Someone

It’s an everyday occurrence that we come across a great Single that’s too good not to share!

You might be thinking…. dating ?!?!?  Yet you have likely recognized in your clearest moments that there is a greater possibility for finding love, despite your best efforts. And, like so many of the singles I speak to simply struggle with trying to solve it on their own with no results. But don’t worry.  There is no secret, we only introduce you to great people and we do it everyday for our clients.

This is where this great client living in Victoria BC, comes in.  We have been working with her hand-in-hand and know she is truly a gem.  She is a slim, blue-eyed blonde with a combination of good looks, enthusiasm, and is truly an amazing woman. She exudes a fun demeanor and romantic playfulness; is a wine-lover, foodie, loves live music, handholding and living a balanced, relaxed, healthy life. Her workout clothes are next to her little black dress, and her boots are next to her heels and retired early she makes her home in both Alberta with more time living in Victoria.  She’s a history buff, sees personal investment management as a hobby, and is a strong believer in giving back to her communities.

If you are an active, fit, 60+ gent with an easy laid-back vibe who is more about spending time together enjoying the variety of what a VICTORIA  lifestyle has to offer, sharing adventure, travel, and lively conversations; we can’t imagine your life without her in it.

Contact me here:  [email protected]

Don’t worry; there are no fees

 

As seen in The Times Colonist , Victoria BC ,  Saturday October 2, 2021

 

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Why Dating has always been (very) Political

 

Forget masks, social distancing, or being vaccinated the real issue stopping you meeting the love of your life might just be your politics.

Reporting from the dating frontline, we can attest the politicization of dating is real , especially during an election.  And, according to the clients we work with 50% believe its important to stay informed about politics and that they could not date someone who has strong political opinions that are the opposite of theirs. Good to know!

If politicization means dating results in meaningful moments between people with actual feelings, personal I’m all for it.  However, getting to know someone on a first date should be fun and light-hearted involving banter and flirting and you can learn a lot about someone that doesn’t involve their political identity.

Are you looking for the love of your life and what do you think ?

 

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Do you get stuck in a negative DATING thought loop- that you can’t get out?

The media & TV, you see, contributes to the failure of many relationship expectations around the world.  Glamorizing and magnifying fairy tales that cause us – women especially- to have unrealistic expectations about how successful romantic relationships are found and maintained and when you think dating becomes a challenging situation it becomes pervasive in your life.

Sometimes the impact is so great that it has virtually obliterated thoughts around dating creating worst case scenarios leaving singles exhausted and sabotaging their own relationship goals that you can’t get out.  How whacked is that?

Fortunately, there are several methods to stop this trouble-making pattern of thought – which over the last 20 years, I got to share with many of my matchmaking clients.  Getting back to traditional ways involving two people who are actually suitable for each other (imagine that) and who, with a little help from extended support often build a successful relationship…..over time.

Let’s be honest, not everyone is prepared for the full matchmaking experience and that’s okay —knowing a thing or two about what works and just having someone there to help can make all the difference.

Email me [email protected]   for a complimentary call and I can tell you more about my new offer, Matchmaker on Demand.

 

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Dating Advice for Single Dads

One of the biggest things I work with Single Dads on when I’m matchmaking is that if you want to meet a 100 percent woman, you need to be a 100 per cent man.  Developing positive, healthy relationships with others only comes when you can develop a positive, healthy relationship with yourself.

However, truth be known about dating single dads;

  • You are some of the most loving, compassionate, and fun guys to date with no energy for drama knowing that every moment you spend with someone is time away from your kids.
  • You are a man who does not run from responsibility, and isn’t afraid of the words “love, marriage and family”.
  • Your badge is of a man who knows the mystery of the amazing boo–boo kiss, who spent a whole summer in a blanket fort, is a constant true role model and hero to his kids knowing life is filled with endless possibilities and that real love does exist!

But I know you can and will, find the right woman for you the moment you actually decide to commit to finding her.  SHE is out there right now waiting for you (perhaps going on dates with rather disappointing results) and SHE is relying on you to go out and find her.

Commit, believe, and get your woman, its Fathers Day!

contact us.   [email protected]

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When Matchmakers Work Together, Everyone Wins !


Over the last decade, boutique matchmaking firms have cultivated reputations as caring and collaborative professionals who provide personalized assistance to hundreds of singles in North America and around the world. 

So far, we have had an undeniably positive influence on the dating scene and we want to continue helping as many singles as we can in as many ways as we can.  We are more than willing to expand our reach, influence and expertise with other professionals who share similar goals and business models in the dating industry.  We can give our clients access to the best potential matches possible as many of our clients have second homes in different parts of the country.   In fact most of the dynamic Matchmakers I’ve met have become so well-known for their dating expertise and combined years of experience you might have seen them on many media outlets.

The one thing we all agree on is that we really feel we’re making a difference in people’s lives.  I mean that’s why we all got into the matchmaking business in the first place (18 years for me), to give the best gift we can give someone — to help them find love.

September SCOOP: This week, our strong matchmaking network from around the Pacific North West know the value of collaboration and we are attending a forward-thinking day of face-to-face meetings and collaboration hosted in Seattle.  So if it suits you to expand your reach out to other areas for potential matches within NA or throughout the world let your Matchmaker know.  We can help you access to the best resources possible  “because a rising tide lifts all boats” US President John F. Kennedy.

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Online Romance/Dating Scam Artists steal Hearts, then Money !

Today the FBI announced indictments in a massive money laundering scheme.  They stated about 50% of the cases were online Romance Scams.

By Definition; A romance scam is a confidence trick involving feigning romantic intentions towards a victim, gaining their affection, and then using that goodwill to commit fraud.

Scammers take advantage of people looking for romantic partners, often via dating websites, apps, social media and yes, even Facebook by pretending to be prospective companions.  Peppering their pray with endearments avoiding face to face connection because of an “invisible love interest” ; making this fraud easier to commit.  But can algorithm really determine if 2 strangers could be soulmates?  Research proves , NO !

Here are a few warning signs of an online dating scam;

  • Professes love quickly, and commonly use the alias of being a doctor or a widower.  They also tell you to keep your romance secret from others.
  • Claims to be from US or Canada but is overseas for business or military service
  • Manipulates you over and over for money, and lures you off the dating site.  If someone asks you to get a gift card, don’t do it.
  • Claims to need money – for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel and plans to visit you, but can’t because of an emergency.

What really matters is it’s being done, and part of it is knowing the law and whether you live in a romance scam hotspot.  Police never call to ask you for money and banks never text you either.  The reported loss from victims of romance scams in Canada was just under $25 million in 2018, according to the Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre and together with the U.S has lost nearly $1 billion over the last three years.  

So, how should you approach online dating if you want to meet someone?

  • Limit yourself to a reasonable number of candidates in a set time period.
  • Don’t put too much emphasis on people who seem most desirable on paper. Keep an open mind.
  • Emphasize what’s important to you, not what others say is important.
  • Craft your profile carefully, highlighting what sets you apart.
  • Or consider using a matchmaking service which will personally verify, verify, verify on your behalf

Watch how a BC Woman lost her sister to a romance scam and is hoping her story  and us sharing will prevent other tragedies.  https://globalnews.ca/news/5095659/romance-scam-money/

To report a Romance Scam in Canada file a report with your local police department and the Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre : http://www.antifraudcentre.ca/reportincident-signalerincident/index-eng.htm

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Isnt She Lovely

As seen in the Comox Valley Record – July 2018

Contact me for more information [email protected] 

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2 Reasons Why -She’s Perfect For You!

 

When a woman is off the charts, she can have any guy she wants and for some reason she is still looking for you! Well that’s what some of you might be thinking, but guys, what a gift this woman is to invite you into the next level of your glorious evolution! Take her off the pedestal, don’t get me wrong she’s a magnificent goddess and she farts like the rest of us.   Perhaps hers don’t stink but you get the picture, yes?

So, if you are looking for a great relationship, its time to get present and focus on two things:

  1. Start receiving- she’s looking for someone like you! Relationships are reciprocal, remember?
  1. There will be things she sees in you, that you don’t (yet). BE that. Exude that. Wake that up in you. Own it.

I’m sorry to say that most men (and women…..me included) are stubborn and want to ‘do it on our own’ and when we have hit the wall we are more willing to ask for help.  Well don’t wait until then, and I challenge you to not wait and to be proactive.

I would be privileged to book a time to connect with me to at least see if she is for you, attraction and connection aside.

Email me confidentially at  [email protected]   \ or call 778-552-3350   \    As seen in the Victoria Times Colonist – Saturday May 26, 2018

 

 

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Spring, and LOVE, is just around the corner.

While you still might be tempted to have more “Netflix and Chill” nights, as the temperatures rises, endorphins spark as the sun comes out; so, does your desire for a relationship.  There is something about the days getting a little longer brings us all out of the woodworks and we are seeing a surge in singles wanting to put themselves out there to meet someone,

As spring falls upon us there are still do’s and don’ts when it comes to meeting the right kind of match, based on what you’re looking for and here are a couple of steps you can follow to meet your Spring Love;

DO lose your “laundry list”; This doesn’t mean go out with anyone who asks, but your perfect partner is never 100 percent of what you think is perfect for you that you’ve put on a piece of paper. Date smart, but date with a balance of openness.

DON’T TMI; As relaxed as you are with this great first date, trust me that he’d rather not hear about your alcoholic mother who has a bad habit of continuing asking you for money. As interesting as you think he finds it, it’s because he wants to get to know as much as possible since this is probably the last time he will see you.

DO keep it simple, stupid; Stop trying to complicate things that are not. Relax, stop overanalyzing and putting unfounded pressure on your first few dates. You’re not getting married, you are on your second date.

DON’T try too hard; Put your best foot forward, work on yourself, but remain humbly confident. Don’t ever try to be something you are not in order to try to make someone like you. No one’s perfect. Be your best YOU that you can be, and you will find that right person who loves you for you, flaws and all.

After reading these DOs and DON’Ts are you be ready to meet your Spring Love?

 Contact me [email protected]

 

“hope springs eternal meaning, definition, what is hope springs eternal: said when you continue to hope that something will happen, although it seems unlikely.”

 

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