Are they a good time for you? If you think about it, the First First date was Adam and Eve. They settled on apple picking as an activity,
had a serpent as a chaperone and the rest is history.
Today the all-important first date isn’t easy for most. Between the pressure of who’s going to pay,
how to keep the conversation going and how might it end, there are so many moving pieces which for some
can make it a less than appealing way to spend an evening. And yet traditional dates are held up as a
romantic ideal, and a must do if you want to meet someone.
Here are some ways our idea of a “date” has
dramatically varied over the years;
Pre-19th century: Who needs dating when your matchmaking parents can set you up?
Early 1900s: A date involves a “gentleman caller” and is definitely chaperoned
1920s: Dating is about going out and playing the field.
1940s and 1950s: Dating is about procuring a husband ASAP.
1960s and 1970s: A date is really about sex.
1990s: Dating isn’t actually dating, it’s “hooking up.”
So, what does this mean for the picture-perfect first date
today? Given how fast things change (it was only a few years ago swiping right
wasn’t a term we even knew), trying to get a “first date” right isn’t
worth getting stressed over.
For our clients formal dates do still happen, but there’s a
ton of in between that comes from us that by the time the “first date” happens
you’ve already gotten to know so much about the other person that the initial
first face-to-face is exceedingly casual or already has an air or familiarity.
Fact; 48% of all
singles are using Facebook to do their own adept stalking before a date — WE
actually have the first date by meeting them.
Now, it’s all up to you.
contact me at [email protected]
Put Winter to Bed – Reset your Love Life!
While the stars are in your favor, the Spring Equinox is the perfect time to shake things up a little – rejuvenate stale relationships, get your love life together, and go on a new dating adventure.
So, make the most of the Spring Equinox with a few tips of inspiration for a new romantic pursuit ;
In short, take full advantage of the Spring Equinox and remember to give yourself realistic timelines and goals and the time to enjoy it is now.
Bring. It. On!
The Pros and Cons of First Dates
Are they a good time for you? If you think about it, the First First date was Adam and Eve. They settled on apple picking as an activity, had a serpent as a chaperone and the rest is history.
Today the all-important first date isn’t easy for most. Between the pressure of who’s going to pay, how to keep the conversation going and how might it end, there are so many moving pieces which for some can make it a less than appealing way to spend an evening. And yet traditional dates are held up as a romantic ideal, and a must do if you want to meet someone.
Here are some ways our idea of a “date” has dramatically varied over the years;
Pre-19th century: Who needs dating when your matchmaking parents can set you up?
Early 1900s: A date involves a “gentleman caller” and is definitely chaperoned
1920s: Dating is about going out and playing the field.
1940s and 1950s: Dating is about procuring a husband ASAP.
1960s and 1970s: A date is really about sex.
1990s: Dating isn’t actually dating, it’s “hooking up.”
So, what does this mean for the picture-perfect first date today? Given how fast things change (it was only a few years ago swiping right wasn’t a term we even knew), trying to get a “first date” right isn’t worth getting stressed over.
For our clients formal dates do still happen, but there’s a ton of in between that comes from us that by the time the “first date” happens you’ve already gotten to know so much about the other person that the initial first face-to-face is exceedingly casual or already has an air or familiarity.
Fact; 48% of all singles are using Facebook to do their own adept stalking before a date — WE actually have the first date by meeting them.
Now, it’s all up to you.
contact me at [email protected]
Everybody gets lonely, period!
When I think of Valentine’s Day, (a day for love and togetherness if you are in love), I can’t help but think at the same time that it can be a very trying time for those of us who are Solohood and hate the pressure of Valentine’s Day but love the thought of romance.
There is widespread assumption that single people are lonely, but it turns out anyone can be lonely, and anyone that is alone , isn’t necessarily lonely. According to recent studies over half of the population (54% being single) now say they always or sometimes feel alone, and one in five say they rarely feel close to anyone. So based on this, to be lonely you don’t have to be alone – it’s about the quality of your connections with people, and whether they genuinely relate to you.
Shockingly, most clients we speak to say that the loneliest they have felt is when they were with someone, but were still lonely. The UK government has actually developed a Minister for Loneliness , whose purpose is trying to figure out why Brits are lonely and what interventions can smooth that out…….sounds like a lonely job to me!
Studies also say that the ever-present online activity, single or not, is the main reason why most people feel lonely. If you’re single, the more time (can be years for some) you spend swiping left or right, is counterproductive in the dating world.
Sure, we need vitamins, clean air and connection for our personal well being. However, if you are Single, take some time to notice how much you need actual connection! You might find you are not lonely, you’re just alone.
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It’s, wait what, one month till Valentines Day?
With February 14th right around the corner, get ready for it, you’re about to see heart-shaped balloons and over-sized stuffed animals everywhere….you can just feel the love in the air. And believe it or not, both guys and gals, are about to press the panic button on single life , which really doesn’t make any sense to me.
If you actually take the time to look around , you’ll notice there are a lot more single people walking the streets by themselves than couples holding hands. And just because you’re single on Valentine’s Day, doesn’t mean you’ll be single forever.
Dating – as I am so often reminding people – is a skill. It’s something that you can take control of and improve with conscious effort ……..along with a little help. Part of the point of working with a Matchmaker is to give you highly-specific, personalized advice to make successful dating a reality. I guarantee if you have the right mindset, play your cards right, there’s a pretty good chance you’ll be able to meet someone before February 14th.
Your thoughts?
How to set a Personal Budget for Dating in 2019
We budget everything in our lives — food,entertainment, travel, and so on. One thing we don’t tend to think about in terms of savings though, is dating. When we take somebody out for a night on the town, we tend to want to go all out. This is especially true if you’ve just met someone and are actively trying to impress them. After all, if you took someone out on a first date that consisted of McDonald’s paid with a coupon,followed by a Netflix movie at your buddy’s place, are the chances good for a second date? Maybe not.
However, that doesn’t mean you should spend tons and tons on the dating scene either. If you do, then all your careful budgeting elsewhere goes to waste. Instead, set a monthly budget for dating. Depending on your earnings, this budget can be high or low, though it should realistically never exceed 10% of your monthly income. Stick to this number while still finding ways to have fun, and you’ll earn a reputation for being a fiscally conservative dating machine.
A recent survey has revealed that, in fact, an average date night in Canada clocks in at $125, with those in Vancouver paying the most of all ($149). Globally, however, a date night in Canada is still cheaper than the same date in several other major global cities.
In the end , quality over quantity when it comes to dating……and we can help with that!
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5 Reasons Daddy Christmas Should be your Next Boyfriend
As you might have heard, your main man Santa is back and on the market. Here are a couple of the many reasons he’s actually a total catch.
Signed; Private Matchmaker for Santa
Give real gifts of love this Christmas
For those of us less fortunate enough not to be in a relationship, the coming of Christmas can present a challenge. Let’s be honest; whether you care about your single status or not listening to relatives probing about our dating life can be draining, as can finding a home for the mountain of small amusing gifts coming your way. For example, being in receipt of wall art or badass affirmations books and you immediately file it under a mental tab marked: Single at Christmas, again – sorted.
But there is a solution; And it’s simple –Give a gift of something to someone who needs it– Choose Love.
So, don’t shut out the idea of helping someone find love –give them a real present of love. This week, we have had several calls from people who realize that waiting patiently to let love find you does not have to be the case and this Christmas we are helping caring friends and family buy loved ones appropriate and indulgent matchmaking membership gifts, the thing that someone single actually needs; to go from single to taken!
Presents for single people truly in need; a solution to your Christmas shopping- It’s what we do.
Since you’re here, give us a call to find out more! [email protected]
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The new “It Breakup”
We are in that small window of opportunity where it’s still semi-acceptable to break up with someone before we get into the Holidays, but the window is quickly closing. You don’t want to be that person breaking up with someone before Christmas. Before you read this, I want you to think about the last time you were dumped or broke up with someone. I feel like 9 out of 10 times; there are some pretty visible signs that a split is coming. Maybe we see them and choose to ignore them, or perhaps we’re oblivious.
I found many articles on the signs your partner is about to leave you, but I think that there are a lot two pretty definitive ones. For most when they are about to end a relationship, they start changing or improving their physical appearance, or posts start disappearing like a bad habit on their social media accounts.
Dah! You should have seen that last break up coming a mile away. And if you’re in a relationship and you’re suddenly doing these things, perhaps it’s time to take a long, hard look at if this relationship is working for you. If you’re the one planning to do the dumping and you’re struggling with how to do it, you can always do it with ice cream. According to Vancouver based Nora’s Non-Dairy, “It’s a sweet but savage way to drop someone!”
Thank you, next……….
HALLOWEEN; The Real Holiday of LOVE
Surprisingly forget Valentine’s Day, Halloween is the real festival of LOVE and according to psychologists they say that more people will hook up this weekend than on February 14th.
Why? Its all down to the science of fear and there is fairly good evidence that feeling afraid can trigger the same emotions as sexual arousal. It’s a good idea to take a date to a horror movie as its acceptable to snuggle into a prospective partner shielding your eyes and that feeling afraid heightens the senses and increases attractiveness and attraction. No wonder so many holidaymakers fall for their ski-instructors or mountain guides as its impossible to separate feelings of sexual attraction from feelings of fear. A hunky Whistler snow moose ready to help you down that scary black run, will make it so much the better.
I’m always telling my clients its important to do something that scares you every day to grow and feel fulfilled especially when it comes to dating. But this—well it’s likely to help your love life too.
Weed is a Dating Deal breaker!
Today, the 1st day that POT is legal in Canada, we wanted to share how serious of a deal breaker it can be when it comes to your love life. Our data, we’ve been asking our clients for years now proves it and no, we’re not high (right now).
First things first; we discovered when it comes to dating -people are okay with their partners smoking weed…if they’re not currently using it. The most popular response was preferring their partners to have experienced the ~crazy effects~ of weed in the past, but not currently partaking. We’ve learned a lot. And we’re continuing to learn more — about you, that is. So today, we’ve added some new pointy questions to our interview process. A few examples:
I’m like the most of us, not criticizing, judging or asking to dispute it, we are just trying to imagine just how this will all play out for our clients and their criteria when it comes to matching them.
CONCLUSION; Weed has more to do with your love life than you think.
Your thoughts?