Most singles love January – they think it’s a time for a new beginning, and to refresh and reset their love lives. Yet, some people like May, when the first signs of summer start and everything feels easy again.
For Matchmakers its February. It’s always been a fabulous month for us and the month where singles make new things happen. As a Matchmaker , I’ve been writing blogs about how January is a great time to assess your situation, review you love plans, and kick start the year dating in a positive way. But for those of you who know me you’ll know that I’m also very firm about one thing: If you don’t get to something in January, that’s no reason to give up. That’s why I look at January as a warmup and February as the time to truly make things happen.
On a personal note, February has been something of a lucky month for me–20 years ago, in February 2002, I was on a flight from Toronto to Vancouver. Making a big, life-changing decision to leave my corporate job, picked up my life and moved across the country to start a business in Matchmaking. I was ready to move on and move forward. I couldn’t wait to hop off the plane and start strategizing.
Fast forward to February 2022, my mission hasn’t changed- knowing everyone wants love but not everyone can easily find it. That mission has gotten me out of bed for the last 20 years.
I truly believe, when you are clear about what you want and why you want it, it becomes much easier to keep going and to stay focused, even if it’s taking longer than expected.
How NOT to Burn Out, DATING
Born and raised a Toronto girl with nothing more than passion, a computer, a love for the West Coast, and for the last 20 years I have remained insatiably curious about human connections.
What makes singles genuinely happy, successful, and fulfilled while searching for the one? It is possible to dream big without running yourself into the ground, while still remaining optimistic, open, and stress-free.
Here’s the good news; I’ve learned from personal experience (and by interviewing some great successful singles), that you can accomplish meeting the one—without burning out. As long as you cultivate the right habits and plan of action.
Everyone’s plan will look a little bit different, but there are some things that should definitely be included;
Well, there you have it; however, this is by no means an exhaustive list. If you’d like to find a mentor to talk to about these kinds of things and don’t have one, consider reaching out to me. It would be my honor to support you and cheer you on.
Modern Love
We have found that it is UNLIKELY that two people would get together to date in today’s world if they had ABSOLUTELY NOTHING in common.
In fact, the relationship goals of most of the singles, looking for relationships that we meet, are quite different than those of the past. Although it’s known that skiing, biking, and hiking use to top the list; now different values and the extremely tough challenges that we have all experienced over the past couple years has become the priority.
One challenge in particular is that singles live in a world where independence and individuality are valued higher than they used to be, which means that sometimes relationships and family become a “back burner” priority. But it’s never too late to make your relationship a priority.
Here are a few qualities successful singles have in common.
While it is possible to build a relationship with someone you have a little in common with, too. Over time, chances are you’ll discover, learn , and try more things that you can both enjoy and share together.
The February that changed my career—and life.
Most singles love January – they think it’s a time for a new beginning, and to refresh and reset their love lives. Yet, some people like May, when the first signs of summer start and everything feels easy again.
For Matchmakers its February. It’s always been a fabulous month for us and the month where singles make new things happen. As a Matchmaker , I’ve been writing blogs about how January is a great time to assess your situation, review you love plans, and kick start the year dating in a positive way. But for those of you who know me you’ll know that I’m also very firm about one thing: If you don’t get to something in January, that’s no reason to give up. That’s why I look at January as a warmup and February as the time to truly make things happen.
On a personal note, February has been something of a lucky month for me–20 years ago, in February 2002, I was on a flight from Toronto to Vancouver. Making a big, life-changing decision to leave my corporate job, picked up my life and moved across the country to start a business in Matchmaking. I was ready to move on and move forward. I couldn’t wait to hop off the plane and start strategizing.
Fast forward to February 2022, my mission hasn’t changed- knowing everyone wants love but not everyone can easily find it. That mission has gotten me out of bed for the last 20 years.
I truly believe, when you are clear about what you want and why you want it, it becomes much easier to keep going and to stay focused, even if it’s taking longer than expected.
There’s ONE MONTH till Valentines Day!
Ok, you have been warned; there are no excuses. Just when you were resting on your laurels making it thru the holidays being single; boom it will be Valentines Day! Not that we want to politicize Valentine’s Day, as we are still in a pandemic and not supposed to be touching people, but call it what you will, Valentines’ Day is our favourite holiday.
If you are single , I promise you , you are not alone; you’re just not seeing them. As I am so often reminding people, there are many, many singles thinking the same thing you are and lacking enthusiasm. However, there is no need to veto Valentine’s Day this year. Because we are singing a different tune and believe now is a perfect time to kick off your love campaign.
Todays, matchmaking pools are thriving. For starters, we elevate the bar for our clients with an alternative that can help cut through the noise. And there is an abundance of healthy and active people interested in meeting someone for a relationship.
Ever consider hiring someone to help you find love ? Contact me [email protected] or call 778-552-3350
I hope to hear from you.
A Dating Challenge to KICK OFF 2022
For most singles, the New Year is the most proactive season to get out and find love. We all have rituals round many things in our life, and I myself will recommit to conscious eating and more exercise. This being a seemingly endless season of difficulty and uncertainty for everyone—and yet, as is always the case, singles have never had more of a desire to find love.
So, to mark the passing of 2021 and to ring in 2022, I’m sending you this New Year’s inspired reminder, along with a dating challenge. Start with an inventory of lists and in place of resolutions, desire your way into a New Year of dating consciously.
Your challenge:
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Your Dating Struggles are NOT Your Fault. Here’s Why.
As someone who spent the last 20 years listening to single people sharing some of their biggest dating struggles, I know better than anyone how much fun the “dating thing” can be. So many singles blame themselves and feel terrible when they don’t get the results they want. Plus, dating itself can be loaded up with self-loathing beliefs—this kind of negative mindset will only keep you stuck, yet another year, in a pattern of yo-yo dating.
That being said, the dating thing also comes with some drawbacks. For example, here are some actual recent dating struggles from our clients that you might be able to relate to;
If you want to create self-loving, healthy dating habits for 2022 – that are realistic to maintain- then I encourage you to contact us now ! [email protected]
Dating Apps Dictate “the more the merrier” !
With the new variants and current global climate, we’re in a new stage and phase of dating and there is nothing wrong with you if that’s where your mind is going or if love is what you’re seeking. We are all trying to get by.
Dating experts and matchmakers- myself included- would advise that it is in every singles best interest to meet a potential match in real life as soon as possible, to avoid wasting your time and emotional energy investing in someone you many not have chemistry with.
For starters, now’s your chance to focus on quality over quantity. Dating apps have always dictated the more the merrier, and many users are often talking to various people at once, continually looking for the next best thing and moving on to another at the first sign of boredom or doubt. In matchmaking and real life, you allow yourself to open up and engage with one person, dive deeper into less superficial conversations, therefore creating stronger connections, to roll with it and see what can come.
Which brings me to my next point if you’re looking for love: the more that you’re not distracted by dating apps usual fast pace, you can see a missed connection for what it is. Go with what makes you feel comfortable, and just because you know other singles are hopping on the FaceTime/Zoom/phone call/texting bandwagon, doesn’t mean you have to follow suit.
It’s Time! 3 Reasons to Date in 2022
Dating has always allowed you to hit pause and take a break. But after living thru the last few years of a pandemic which has challenged dating, many of us realize now it’s about so much more. Matchmakers like me, who work with singles who say they would seriously date someone, are setting the tone. Dating can be a good catalyst for good and it can even be regenerative for singles.
Knowing what you want, finding smart ways to cut thru all the noise, meeting others who are more ready to find love, generally is on everyone’s mind and a constant with all the singles I speak with these days. Luckily, Matchmakers have always taken dating seriously and as the world really starts to open up again, here are my 3 reasons to get dating in 2022.
4 Things You Need to Remember Before a First Date
As a matchmaker, I can’t guarantee love, but I can help you get a first date. Over the last 20 years I’ve set up a lot of first dates, so I get it, and I’ve been there for my clients when they get nervous. Its super relatable and it shows that you care about yourself, the other person, and the outcome. Good for you. So, take a few deep breaths and give yourself a self-talk before the date and remind yourself of these four things and let them calm those anxious butterflies right down.
And finally, try to remember- the goal of a first date is simple; try to put a second date on the calendar to continue the conversation.
Do you have plans for New Year’s?
So here we are the beginning of November. Over the last 20 years that I have been matchmaking, I don’t know of another four weeks when singles lurch forward into new states of mind quite so dramatically and we are busy.
Hoping to see physical manifestations of our hearts desires feels more urgent on these longer November evenings, and before we shift inevitably into the next year, and if your single you get feelings to find somebody to love. Consider where we were last year at this time. Vaccine trials, hospitals overwhelmed, borders still closed, November has always been a month of high emotion, whether it’s longing, loss, or memories of closeness.
But come on. Everyone, at one point in their lives needs encouragement along the way and you are no different; without fail our clients hold on to that believing. They let US focus on it and they are enthusiastic to accept meeting potential local love possibilities.
Though patience is a virtue, there is a limit to everyone’s patience. Where are you ?
Happy New Year…this is the year of ….?