Unsolicited Dating Advice
A lot of singles have difficulty navigating their own conflicting views of dating. And there is this age-old dilemma for our friends/family who have life experiences, know us, and want to use it to help us from making mistakes. But guess again, most singles see the interventions as intrusive and crossing a boundary usually creating uncertainty, doubt, and a disbelief that this is how things should go.
Matchmakers, along with relationship coaches have altruistic intentions. Instead of telling our clients how to live their dating life, we help them manage the feedback, and ask them how we can help. This allows our clients to feel safe in their boundaries and empowered to respectfully accept or reject the offer. Listening and asking questions is more valuable than telling people what to do.
Just this week I had a couple out on a 2nd date and after a week of disbelief how things actually went, just needed a little acknowledgement that things were in fact going well. They are now going on date #3.
Simply being there, validating, cheering them on, giving them virtually hugs mean more than an instruction manual.
Do you have an unsolicited dating experience like this that you would like to share with us? Go on, then, tell us in the comments section below.
